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Nov 14, 2018 | Your Relationships

Catherine A. Wood

The Modern Achilles Heel

This week I want to share something that has been on my heart lately.

It’s the idea around intellectually “knowing” how you’re getting in your own way versus actually being willing to change.

Self help books can be both a gift and a curse. The thing is, you can learn an intellectual knowing of what you’re doing, how you’re self sabotaging, and getting in your own way…

…but the difference between knowing this and actually being willing to change are absolutely distinct conversations.

For some people, their personal knowledge of disempowering patterns can be an Achilles heel because they can talk themselves out of changing or resign themselves to the fact that they can’t create anything new or different.

I spoke to someone recently who has a profound level of self-awareness and intimately knows how she gets in her own way.

It pains me to hear her intellectualize her way out of changing her life.

It’s like she’s settling and resigning herself to the reality that her life is “just the way it is” and she can’t do anything about it. Instead of looking for new avenues of possibility, she has to search for small wins and shortcuts to feel better,  as if giving  herself permission to not have what she actually wants is ever the path to choose.

This shows up in various ways. It may look like focusing on her professional prowess to hedge around a lack of personal fulfillment. Or showing up confidently in the boardroom as a crutch when she has no power in her romantic relationship.

It’s heartbreaking.

The point I am sharing here is the importance of really, truly starting to get curious around the areas of your life where you’re settling or intellectualizing yourself out of making a change, and then focusing on the areas of your life in which you do have the personal power to change.

Oftentimes, by focusing on regaining our personal power in one new area of life, we invite and create the possibility and momentum to change many other areas of our life too.

I invite everyone to start playing this game.

The one that has you get out of your comfort zone.

Because our comfort zone expands and contracts with our willingness to take on something outside of it.

So, will you take your first step outside of your comfort zone right now by declaring your willingness to take on this game of possibility?

If you said “yes,” reach out and tell me more.

To your absolutely unbounded potential,

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Trigger warning:
This episode may contain triggering content for some listeners affected by child loss; please review the show notes to know if this episode is proper for you now.

As an empath, it can often feel like we’re living in a world that’s grieving hardship and heartbreak. This is why I’m grateful to sit down with Jenn Andreou, an Executive Coach and Grief Recovery Method Specialist. In her work, Jenn helps grievers who feel stuck in the pain of their losses to move through grief and take action to regain their wellbeing. Throughout the episode, we talk about living with grief and allowing yourself to feel pain, sadness, and sorrow instead of fixing or bypassing them. After living through two tragic losses, it took Jenn seventeen years to truly begin to heal and find her way back to joy. Why? Because while grief is emotional, we as a society often intellectualize it and don’t allow ourselves to truly embrace and process our feelings. Jenn joins me for a heartfelt discussion on taking action (not the kind you may think), becoming more honest with yourself, and embracing the idea that it’s okay for things to not always be good so you can heal and move forward.

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